It’s not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself. ~Joyce Maynard
I have to admit I also grew up while they were growing up. My children were trained to be independent-minded, as free-thinkers, as freedom lovers, as realists, as justice sympathizers, and to be individuals upholding integrity, dedication and truth.
It is not easy for one parent to be a parent with children that know their rights fully well, that stand on what they believe in, that are not swayed or influenced easily, and that have minds of their own. I tell you it was, and it is, not easy.
Along the way, Papsie and I have learned a lot from this journey. It is very true that as we live, we learn. It is an unending journey of learning. With it comes acceptance of your own misgivings and your own weaknesses as parents. We learned to accept the unacceptable. Translate: we become more understanding individuals.
While Papsie and I wilt with old age and illnesses, we are confident though that they will be able to carry on life, and perhaps be better than how we tried to live it, even without us around. In fact, they are already better than how we tried reaching the sun.
The truth of the matter is, there were many rough roads before we managed to realize how important each of us is to one another. We had developed this bond so strong that it was what kept us getting on. We were complete, no one was absent in tempering the ties. Everybody in our household cooperated, and I believe it will be stronger.
I am simply happy today. I realized Papsie and I succeeded even if our roles in our children’s lives are just secondary fiddle it may seem. I believe we were successful in imparting the vital ingredients in life.