While watching Desperate Housewives (I do not even know if it is a rerun), the voice over uttered, “And so, there are many different parenting styles, and most parents are afraid if they are doing it right.”
There were stages that I really got anxious if I was doing it right. I had come to a point of assessing my style, and what I have done right or wrong. I believe most, if not all, parents come to this point of having to gauge their ‘performance’ as parents.
I once wrote Being a Good Parent is not guarantee. I believe it is so. The influences our children acquire outside the house are varied, and sometimes they can be unreliable. As parents, we do not have control over them. We are left with pleading and imploring the Absolute Being above to take care of them and keep watch over them when we’re not around.
Admittedly, it makes me afraid all the time if we, hubby and I, are doing it right. It has never left our care and concern. But I know we could only do so much because they are growing individuals finding their own identity. We cannot resign as parents but we have to give the freedom to find themselves and what they could contribute to humanity, even in their small ways.