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He Did It Again

November 11, 2005 By: Bing Category: Uncategorized

My son, Daryl, did it again. When he had his field trip, he made me experience fear. Why does he have to let me experience it again?

My son is not fond of cel phones although I bought one for him. It is a tool, as most of us regard it, to keep in touch with others, and most especially with him, if necessary. It is vital because it is the easiest way for us to communicate about what he needs for his school projects, about his whereabouts, or about important matters that need to be relayed immediately. I had repeatedly told him all these.

Nevertheless, Daryl did not develop a liking to cellular phones. He even shuts it down in order to save energy for the battery (his usual rant). We always discuss that cel phones should be activated because it was conceived to serve the purpose of sending and receiving messages and calls. I even emphasized that it is very useful for emergency situations. He argues that it is not practical for him to switch it on all the time because he does not use the device often aside from the fact that he has no constant text mates.

I was so tired out of his reasoning and to end the argument, I would always give a deep sigh with “Naku naman, Daryl!” (almost like “You are impossible, Daryl!”) He would just stare at me blankly or keep quiet or smile timidly. End of discussion.

Then came Tuesday when I had rendered OT. When I reached home it was 6:35 pm. I immediately saw Kay’s troubled look, “Ma, wala pa si Daryl.” (“Ma, Daryl has not arrived yet.”) There was a hiss from Papsie as if preventing her to utter the words and I heard something like, “Anak, ba’t sinabi mo agad? Mali, e…” (“Why did you tell her about it at once, my daughter? Ill-timed…”) I flared up and asked the two of them what then did they do about it. They stammered as they mumbled reasons, and the words fell incoherent. I tried very hard to keep calm but I was not able to. I was petrified of the fact that he was late one and a half hours. He was never late going home from school without an advice. He is also a type not fond of going out with peers, or staying outside our home late. He is so unlike Kay.

What I remember was I went upstairs twice but I can’t remember why. I changed my footwear to slippers and rushed towards the highway. I was praying while traversing the road to the highway, and I was in fear. “My God, it does not matter how many digital cameras will be lost, but not my son,” I kept mumbling.

I reached the highway, numb with apprehension. I did not meet Daryl along the way not like when he went home late from the field trip that I met him halfway. “God, where is Daryl?” Each moment was like an eon, each passing second was like torture. Each passer by was scanned. Nobody resembles Daryl. “God, it is almost 7 o’clock. Please keep him safe and away from harm.” Then from the dark corners of the overpass stairs came a familiar figure, head down while walking, pantomiming Danaya, or Amihan, or Pirena, or Alena (whoever) as they summon their powerful stones, and oblivious of everything around him. “It is Daryl!” I shouted silently. “God, thank you very much.”

When he lifted his face, as if coming out from a vortex of another world, he smiled uneasily, “Ma, we had a practice.” I replied in a controlled voice, “Daryl naman, be responsible. You could have at least made a call.” Then he replied, “Everybody was out of load, and I did not see a telephone around. The place is a basketball court.” I kept silent after a few words but still had many things in mind left unspoken. I decided to discuss them when we reach home. My son still has a lot to learn about life.

46 Comments to “He Did It Again”


  1. hi, rolly,

    i wonder if i will get used to it. i freak out when they are late. though i know that not a single bit of worry will help. sabi nga ng hubby ko, mas mahirap ang sobrang pag-aalala, baka atakihin ka pa daw.

    parents like us (because not every parent is concerned) undergoes (underwent) a phase like this because we are still so attached with the kids. a lot of their decisions still depend on what we think and say.

    i just hope that as time goes by, i will learn to be more relaxed. i just hope, too, that Daryl will be a little more responsible of informing us his whereabouts.

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  2. ay, naku, baby pink, nakakapraning kasi, e. imagine, a lot of thoughts were running in my mind, and it felt like it is going to explode. if he had informed us sana, di hindi mag-aalala. napakahirap kasi ng panahon ngayon sa mga kabataan, a lot of wild elements are out there searching for their preys.

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  3. hi, senor enrique… i don’t think so. he is not just used to it. though that part that he is so aware of taunts is really there. he gets alarmed when i blurt out words like “i will see and talk to that teacher, she does not know how to teach” (it is just a tease). he would almost shout, “Ma, no!”

    my boy is growing up and i dont really act like i monitor each activity in his life. i just freak out when something not usual happened.

    i’ll be sending you an email late, sir.

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  4. I guess that is the difference between a daughter and a son.

    This is the preview of what’s gonna come when they grow up especially if your kid is a boy.

    As time goes by, you’ll get used to it and you’ll be relax and more positive and not always think of all negatives that “might happen”.

    I was just wondering why we parents are like this. I was once like you but now, instead of thinking the bad things (someone told me that by thinking that way, i am inviting negative vibes to my kids), i now just pray to God to send His angels to protect them. I learned it from my wife. She used to be like you.

    Kung iisipin mo nga, kahit matatanda, di rin consistent sa pag inform sa yo kung nasaan na sya.

    God Bless.

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  5. this entry made me understand and apprecite how (and why) my parents go nuts when we’re late and we haven’t called or anything.:)

    thanks, miss bing.:)

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  6. Hi Bing!

    Note on his cellphone: Some kids, I notice, consider it uncool when their parents have too much access as to their whereabouts. I remember when I was in Grade 5 at Bonifacio Elementary School, my mother had someone, Meling, to fetch me after school, but I would hide from her instead because it used to embarrass me lots. My friends used to taunt me endlessly about it also. Too many frantic moments for Meling she quit. I guess, the cellphone, feels like an extended “leash” to your boy (just a guess).

    Eric

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  7. hi, rolly,

    i wonder if i will get used to it. i freak out when they are late. though i know that not a single bit of worry will help. sabi nga ng hubby ko, mas mahirap ang sobrang pag-aalala, baka atakihin ka pa daw.

    parents like us (because not every parent is concerned) undergoes (underwent) a phase like this because we are still so attached with the kids. a lot of their decisions still depend on what we think and say.

    i just hope that as time goes by, i will learn to be more relaxed. i just hope, too, that Daryl will be a little more responsible of informing us his whereabouts.

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  8. ay, naku, baby pink, nakakapraning kasi, e. imagine, a lot of thoughts were running in my mind, and it felt like it is going to explode. if he had informed us sana, di hindi mag-aalala. napakahirap kasi ng panahon ngayon sa mga kabataan, a lot of wild elements are out there searching for their preys.

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  9. hi, senor enrique… i don’t think so. he is not just used to it. though that part that he is so aware of taunts is really there. he gets alarmed when i blurt out words like “i will see and talk to that teacher, she does not know how to teach” (it is just a tease). he would almost shout, “Ma, no!”

    my boy is growing up and i dont really act like i monitor each activity in his life. i just freak out when something not usual happened.

    i’ll be sending you an email late, sir.

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  10. Screwed-Up AKA SnglGuy says:

    Hmmm…I can understand how you feel.Wait,I shouldn’t be saying that since I don’t even have a kid!Hehe.

    But seriously,worrying and anxiety seems to be part of being a parent.And for a good reason…Times have changed.Crime is up and weirdos are everywhere and not to mention bad company in school.

    BTW…Mind if I link you?

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  11. yes, flexj, i believe that prayers help a lot.

    lalong ibayong pag-iingat at pagpapaalala ang kailangan kapag babae ang anak.

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  12. no problem, single guy, link away.

    what i am worried about is crime and the weirdos around who are capable to execute the crimes. i trust him that he would not be lured by bad company.

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  13. ay, naku, jayred, it is the reason why i panicked when i heard he was not home yet. i was so thankful when i saw him. God is really good.

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  14. i know that… freedom is everything to a growing adolescent, but cant they be a little more responsible? yun lang ang hinihingi ko and i think that does not affect ‘freedom’.

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  15. tama ka Ate Bing, kahit na may trust ka sa anak mo, ang paligid naman ang kalaban mo.
    Vertrauen ist gut, kontrolle ist besser … ang ugali nila dito.

    vertrauen – trust

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  16. Whew!
    Di pa nangyayari sa kin yan eh, Sana naman eh wag at puro babae pa naman ang anak ko….

    We parents are like that…can’t help it….we treasure them so much.

    Tama si Rolly, we have just to pray for their safety and refrain from thinking of those negative vibes that might worsen the situation…

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  17. Hmmm…I can understand how you feel.Wait,I shouldn’t be saying that since I don’t even have a kid!Hehe.

    But seriously,worrying and anxiety seems to be part of being a parent.And for a good reason…Times have changed.Crime is up and weirdos are everywhere and not to mention bad company in school.

    BTW…Mind if I link you?

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  18. Ah, the worries of a mother….Glad to know he came home safe. Mahirap na sa Pinas…mataas ang crime rate and one has to utter prayers for safety all the time before leaving the house.

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  19. yes, flexj, i believe that prayers help a lot.

    lalong ibayong pag-iingat at pagpapaalala ang kailangan kapag babae ang anak.

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  20. no problem, single guy, link away.

    what i am worried about is crime and the weirdos around who are capable to execute the crimes. i trust him that he would not be lured by bad company.

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  21. ay, naku, jayred, it is the reason why i panicked when i heard he was not home yet. i was so thankful when i saw him. God is really good.

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  22. it only means one thing: nagbibinata na ang daryl mo. most adolescents want “freedom”. it’s part of growing up. let him be. :-)

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  23. i know that… freedom is everything to a growing adolescent, but cant they be a little more responsible? yun lang ang hinihingi ko and i think that does not affect ‘freedom’.

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  24. way back in high school, slim whale? at inabot ka na ng umaga??? my God, that would REALLY freak me out!

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  25. dyan ba ok ang kapaligiran, ‘neng? kasi dito sa Pinas, ang hirap na talaga, parami nang parami ang crime elements.

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  26. ouch.

    now i know how my mother felt whenever i would go home the morning after without calling her up. that was way back in high school.

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  27. tama ka Ate Bing, kahit na may trust ka sa anak mo, ang paligid naman ang kalaban mo.
    Vertrauen ist gut, kontrolle ist besser … ang ugali nila dito.

    vertrauen – trust

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  28. way back in high school, slim whale? at inabot ka na ng umaga??? my God, that would REALLY freak me out!

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  29. dyan ba ok ang kapaligiran, ‘neng? kasi dito sa Pinas, ang hirap na talaga, parami nang parami ang crime elements.

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  30. Hi Ma’am,

    Maybe your son is better than me.When I was still young, lagi akong umaalis ng bahay ng walang paalam at hindi umuwi sa takdang oras na ibinigay sa amin ng aming dictator type father. Kaya lagi akong napapalo at napaparusahan.

    Just dropping by. Good luck po.

    Yours,

    Ka Webspy

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  31. ha ha dictator type? grabe namang description yun, ka webspy! but anyway, i always tell them to be responsible, wala namang problema kung magsasabi lang.

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  32. hi, malaya… kakanerbiyos ba?

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  33. naku, miss bing, parang nakita ko tuloy ang little ponks ko paglaki-laki pa niya. paghahandaan ko na.
    ngayon nga alam ko na kapag dumating na ang service niya from school kasi his classmates yells “Karl, I love you!” repeatedly. imagine, miss bing, kinder pa lang ‘yan!

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  34. ha ha dictator type? grabe namang description yun, ka webspy! but anyway, i always tell them to be responsible, wala namang problema kung magsasabi lang.

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  35. hi, malaya… kakanerbiyos ba?

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  36. yes, major tom. sometimes though owning a cel phone has its bad consequences..

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  37. Glad that it turned out just alright. Now I guess, the celfone could really prove to be useful, more than ever, in urgent times like this.

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  38. yes, major tom. sometimes though owning a cel phone has its bad consequences..

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  39. Howdy Bing…musta na. When I was a young lad, saksakan din ng tigas ang ulo ko and my parents had trouble tracking me down !Magmamature di yan in the long run so this phase of life you are in now is just temporary. The cell phone sure helps and we must exploit its use whenever we can.

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  40. hi, Bing. i have a son as well, only child. 5 years old pa lang. everytime i come across this thought of later on not knowing where my son is…it does make me panic. i’m dreading the time when it does come, i’m saying this because i’m sure, i’ll have this moment later on, too. just bracing myself for it.

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  41. hi bw, he is not matigas ang ulo naman but is not that responsible. hope he will soon change.

    hi, des! that’s nice – BRACING YOURSELF!

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  42. I was a worrier Bing. I could not sleep if it is late and someone is not home. I will pray for their safety as if their safety depends on my prayer. Walang patid yung dasal ko hanggang di ko naririnig na dumating. Pero narealize ko na useless to panic!
    Ngayon pag late at di pa dumating dasal ako tapos yun na yon… hehehe… yung mama ko naman ngayon ang di mapakale… sabi ko pinahihirapan nya lang sarili nya.. dasal lang sya tapos tulog na na sya, wala din naman sya magagawa kung late na…me mangyayari ba kung sisilip silip sya sa daan?
    Tama ka dapat talaga maging responsible yung bata pero baka tama din si papsie mo na di masyado nagpanic…
    panic nakakasira ng beauty yan ;-)

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  43. ha ha nakakasira ba ng beauty? baka kasi wala nang sisirain sa akin he he

    yun ang dapat kong baguhin, i easily panic talaga naman…

    musta na, ‘lizbeth?

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  44. i can understand your concern about responsibility, but from the point of view of your son (whose point of view is the only one i can really identify with because i’m not a parent), maybe he’s not being irresponsible at all.

    there was a time when beepers were all the rage and i refused to get one. then cellphones came along and my whole family got one–except me. and it was really because i didn’t want my mom making kulit any time she wanted to. it wasn’t until i worked for a year out of town that i got a cellphone.

    your son and i are similar in that he doesn’t seem to welcome the latest technology. maybe we have similar reasons =)

    you’ve said that your son isn’t the type who usually goes out. well, i was like that, too. but once in a while, i’d forget the time–consciously, subconsciously, unconsciously, who really knows?–and get scolded. guess what? this still happens even though i’m much older now.

    occasionally, i still get a text or call asking me where i am. sometimes, i remember to text that i won’t be going home for the night. but i think we’ve gotten used to each other already =)

    what can you and your son do? you really just have to both get used to it.

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  45. i am trying, vonjobi, to understand but the thing is each of us has a social responsibility so i make it a point to stress that.

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